I am a loyal fan.

My personal wellbeing is evolving; I am always in a state of becoming.

There are different degrees of feeling good depending on the individual and also the set point or tone of that individual.

This is something that one has to experience at a personal level. You cannot read about it in a blog to know it.

For example, 15 years ago, I felt better watching TheOprahShow than Sally Jesse. Today I watch Oprah about once a year when her guest happens to be someone I adore. The shows about abuse, rapists, messy homes, overweight and such, do not ring my bells, so I never watch them.

I am no longer a loyal fan of the show, but rather a loyal fan to my wellbeing.

This is true of all TV series and movies. I will watch only that which feels good to me and ignore the rest.

I apply this rule to relationships as well. In my own marriage, we are not together because we've been married for 21 years. We are together because we want to be with each other.

Anytime a relationship is making demands on me to be less than I am, or asking me to change so that they can feel better, I let them off the hook by backing away. My feelings are what matters most to me.

My only job is to seek joy in my life. In all ways, by all means. I milk every aspect of my personal life for the joy of it by blogging about the fun I am having or talking about it with others at every opportunity.

Whatever I think about is!